In our one parent working household, there's a lot of pressure on each parent to do our individual tasks well.
For me, the pressure is on the household: taking care of the piccolini, keeping up with the chores, and protecting Fritz's work time from the volatile nature of life with piccolini.
For Fritz, the pressure is on keeping his job and bringing home mula.
The other day, I read, the measure of a home is how well it restores you at the end of the day. If I'm in charge of the household, is that saying my measuring stick for success? I hope not! Because I'm pretty sure the endless number of chores, the lists of things to do, and the constant state of chaos that is our home is in no way restorative. At least, not for me. I felt slightly ill when I read that. And I didn't read it in a 1950s Good Housekeeping. I read it in the signature file of somebody's email! Am I overly sensitive? (Yes, always.) How do you interpret that text?
I wonder if I would feel less offended if I worked outside of the home? Maybe there's some sort of built-in-excuse the more responsibilities you have. Maybe working out of the home would relieve some of the pressure. Or, as I was pointing out to Fritz yesterday, maybe there would simply be a lot less mess if the boys were in daycare and not at home. Maybe THEN home would seem restorative?
Hey. I'm writing this in the middle of the day because both the piccolini are taking a nap AT THE SAME TIME EVER IN THEIR ENTIRE LIVES. (Normally, Noah doesn't nap.) How cool is that?!? Oh my gosh, I could totally get used to this. How do I make this happen every day? More naps might help make my home restorative.