Seven months ago, after having LONG hair for a LONG time, I cut my hair. Mattias was 2 months old, Noah was just 3. I really needed a change.
I'd read that changing your hair can be traumatic for very young babies. So when I went from very long hair to very short hair, I was prepared for Mattias to "not recognize" me.
Mattias didn't have any problems with the change. Noah did. He immediately began asking me why I was a boy now.
"Mommy, I liked you when you were a girl."
We hadn't talked much about differences between boys and girls. Since both the piccolini are boys, the conversation (still) hasn't come up very often. Also, gender stereotyping is something I've really tried to de-emphasis. After all, our traditional family with a SAHM and bread-winning father is enough of a stereotype for me. Why dwell on it anymore?
The only explanation for Noah's reaction was that he had learned girls-have-long-hair and boys-have-short-hair at preschool.
School is ALWAYS the culprit.
Seven months and two haircuts later, Noah continues to ask when I will be a girl again.
I'm still enjoying short hair. I've grown it out just a tad, I've spent some time getting it styled in a way that I like a little better than that first photo above. I'd like to keep it shorter. I think.
But Noah's persistance on Mommy "being a girl again" is starting to get to me. I'm just not sure on what level it's bothering me.
Do I need to address the issue of gender more directly with Noah? Or do I secretly want to grow my hair long again?